
Getting Along With Your Roommate
Part 1: Guardian Roommates
By The College Advisor
Guardian roommates tend to develop routines and are the most likely of all personality
types to want their room to have some kind of "norm." Some are fussier than others about
their environment and may drive other types crazy trying to keep up with their standards of
neatness.
If neatness is a bone of contention, set up some space boundaries – yours, mine, and ours.
Each person gets to keep their own part of the room the way that is comfortable for them.
Work out a minimum level of neatness for shared spaces—such as always keeping pathways
cleared of clothes, books, and other stuff. If your roommate is having guests over and
can't stand your unmade bed, let him/her make it. He can stuff your clothes in the closet.
But your books and papers need to be off limits.
Guardian Supervisors (ESTJ) sometimes come across as bossy. They naturally take charge.
In areas where you don't care, it is fine to let them take charge, but be sure to let them
know which areas are your territory. They'll respect you more if you stand up for yourself.
They also prefer to know the limits.
Guardian Inspectors (ISTJ) need their quiet time, so if you are a gabber, be sure to get out
of your shared space for long gab fests. They also can be perfectionistic about their
things. Leave their stuff alone!
Guardian Providers (ESFJ) are quite social and like to play host/hostess. They are
usually well-liked. But if you're the quiet type or the highly intellectual type, their
niceness and hospitality may grate on you. Find an outside environment that suits you to
get some relief.
Guardian Protectors (ISFJ) see their living space as their home and will work
industriously to keep it to some desired standard. Don't be surprised if they pick up
after you. If you take too much advantage of them, they will see themselves as a martyr,
so work out an agreement you both can live with.
For Guardians living with Guardians, it usually works out well unless you have
differing "norms" about your environment. If this is the case, talk them out until you
design something that works.
For Artisans living with Guardians, your main conflict will be over work vs. play.
If you're lucky, you'll learn something from their work ethic and you will lighten up
their life when you get them to play.
For Idealists living with Guardians, your main bone of contention will be over differing
values. For conflicting values, you'll need to do some talking, but if you can't agree,
you'll need to find a way to cool it, or eventually both move on to a new roommate.
For Rationals living with Guardians, you'll have a better understanding of the
Supervisor or Inspector Guardian than you will of the Provider or Protector. If your
roommate is one of the latter two, learning to appreciate their talents will broaden your
ability to get along in the world. After all, there are many more Guardians than Rationals.
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